Taking Your Sexting Confidence to the Next Level: Tips & Strategies for Empowerment

In my last post, we covered the basics of sexting: What it is, why it can be empowering, and how to get started. If you missed it, catch up here. Now, let’s take it up a notch! Once you’ve dipped your toes into the sexting pool, it’s time to build your confidence and explore even more. The more confident you feel in yourself, the more empowering sexting becomes.

Whether you want to explore your sexual desires, deepen connection with your partner(s), or feel bolder expressing your sexual self, these strategies will help you level up your sexting game!

1) Start With Self-Affirmation

Building sexual confidence begins with appreciating yourself. If sexting feels intimidating, try these self-affirmations to get in the right headspace:

• Write down 5 things you appreciate about your body, sexuality, or sexual energy. They can be as simple as I love my curly hair or I have an amazing booty.

• Practice positive sexual self-talk: “I am worthy of love and pleasure,” or “My desires are valid and powerful.”

The more you start to believe in your worth, the more your confidence will shine in your spicy texts.

2) Start Slowly and Keep It Fun

Sexting should be playful and pressure-free. No need to rush into explicit messages:

• Send flirty compliments like, “I can’t stop thinking about that kiss last night.”

• Tease your partner with anticipation: “Next time I see you, I might just make you beg for it…”

Keeping it light helps build comfort and confidence.

3) Build Trust Through Communication

Open communication is key for confident sexting:

• Check in with your partner: “What kind of sexting do you like?” or “How do you feel when we sext?” or “Should I send you a spicy picture?” or “Want to hear about my spicy dream last night?”

• Set clear boundaries. Remember, you can always change your mind, your comfort and safety comes first.

Trust makes sexting more fun and less stressful.

4) Experiment With Creative Texts and Photos

Once you’re comfy, get creative:

• Use descriptive texts that tease desire: “I love how your hands feel on my skin…”

• Send empowering photos (no need for nudity if you don’t want to!) Lingerie, sultry outfits, or artistic shots can be just as sexy.

• Play with angles and lighting for intimate, flattering images.

Express yourself authentically and confidently.

5) Let Go of Perfection—Enjoy the Process

Sexting isn’t about being perfect, it’s about connection and fun:

• Don’t overthink your words or photos. Focus on how you feel right now.

• Practice helps! The more you sext, the more natural and confident you’ll feel.

Embrace imperfection and enjoy exploring your desires.

6) Build Your Confidence With Therapy

If you’re nervous or unsure about sexting, therapy can help you dive deeper into your sexual confidence. Sometimes hesitation stems from self-esteem, body image, or past experiences. Therapy offers a safe space to unpack these and reclaim your sexual agency.

Ready to feel empowered in your sexual life? Book a therapy session with me today, and let’s explore your desires and build lasting confidence together.

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Sexting is a bold and empowering way to express yourself, connect with a partner, and boost your confidence. The more you practice, the stronger your sexual agency becomes.

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